Happy First Birthday Aaradhya:)

A Letter To My Daughter Aaradhya on Her 1st Birthday And Its Lessons For Life!

To The Apple Of My Eyes, My Ever So Adorable Daughter Aaradhya!

I am writing this to you on your first birthday, but you won’t read it for many years yet. Where and when you will be reading this I don’t know. I have so many thoughts running around my mind and I thought I would write them all down so that one day, you can read and hopefully treasure them, the way I treasure you.

Today is March 20, 2015. Today is your first birthday. Today, you turned O-N-E. Three hundred and sixty five days ago, I stood with your mother as we welcomed you into this world. It was a time of unbelievable relation. Holding you in my arms for the first time there was this profound moment that the world had been disrupted by your presence, and that it was now my grand responsibility to help you become the woman you were meant to be.

Aaradhya, I always prayed for a daughter, and as an answer to my prayers God gifted us with you. You are a gift from God and this day only reminds us even more how grateful we all are to have you in our family. I will never forget where I was a year ago when I heard the wonderful news of your arrival. I am so happy to be sharing this day with you. Words cannot explain my emotions when the nurse at Navjeevan Nursing Home came over to me and said, “here’s your daughter”. And there was you my darling, Aaroo, clad in white, my tiny little angel!!! Darling, I have always shown to the world my rough and tough side, but I am more emotional than your mother, and if it comes to a “tear shedding competition” I would win it hands down. It is truly edged in my memory, that unforgettable moment, when my tears of joy almost got my shirt wet.

My daughter, it has been more than a 7 months today, since I last saw you when I came home during vacations (on September 15, 2014). You were staying at your Mother's parents home. You are still there at their home.

I know, we are far apart, but you will always be in my heart. I am thinking of you on this special day. I can not describe my love to you. “I miss you Aaroo. You definitely have learned to talk, learned to walk, I miss you calling me ‘Papa’, I miss you holding my hands to walk with." I really wanted to meet you on this special day but circumstances are not in our favor :(  this time. Soon, I will get you back!

My lovely daughter, today I wanted to share with you my hopes and wishes for your life, and to perhaps pass on a little wisdom, should my thoughts be deemed as wise.

I will give you my wise words. You will listen to some, and reject most. If nothing else, take note of where I have failed.

• I will wish for you a life free from pain. But there will be pain. You will have your heart broken, your best friend will betray you. Stay strong. Through pain we learn and return to  joy.
• I will dislike the man (or woman) you bring home. Forgive my selfishness. Should they prove worthy of you, I will love them too, eventually.
• I will tell everyone about you. You’ll be embarrassed. But some day, you’ll know why I’m so proud.
• I will give you everything that I am. I gave you life, that was a good start. But wherever I can help you be happier, it will be done.
• I will strive to make you better than me. It will secretly hurt when you surpass me, but whatever you need to do it, will be yours.
• I will dance at your Wedding. I will embarrass you.
• I will thank God for your mother. She gave you birth. I love her a lot! She is beautiful, intelligent and ofcourse sanskari, but a lier :( she hasn't a beautiful heart).
• I will cry over you. At your successes and failures. In your youth and middle-age. At our mutual joys and fears. I will cry because you are a part of me. Because you give me purpose.
• I will hold you, support you, guide you, teach you, protect you and love you with all my heart and soul!
• I can promise one thing further, "you will always be my baby".

I am your parents since the day you were born and until I draw my last breath. I hope that I stay healthy and see you live the most wonderful life. I can think of nothing more devastating than being denied the chance to see you grow into the wonderful human being that I know you will be. I hope you are blessed not only with a beautiful face, but with a beautiful heart too. I will do my utmost to teach you about being a beautiful person. To teach you that manners and courtesy will carry you far further in this life than a pretty face and a good pair of pins.

I can’t tell you in words how much I miss you my daughter Aaroo!
I love you my sweet Princes! May you have a wonderful first birthday, and a blessed future.

Your father has showered all his blessings to you!

Love you my Apricot! :) Cheeku :)

12 Arrested For Running Illegal Gambling At Village Pabiyana in Mr. Rajinder Singh's House (पबियाणा गांव में जुआ खेलते 12 गिरफ्तार)

Some of you know his background. Just a real quick summary for those who don't: 

I am writing this to give you people some information about Mr. Rajinder Singh, S/O Sh. Bhagat Ram, (Bhagtiya) Village Pabiyana, working as a Peon at HPPWD, Teh Rajgarh, Distt. Sirmaur. I want to inform you that Mr.

Rajinder Singh is my father in law and is well known for his notorious acts in the neighborhood. As per the police station, many complaints have been lodged against him in the past and he is a proclaimed defaulter. 

1. In 2012, before Vidhan Sabha Election, he came to our house and told us he has lost a bag of official cash of Rs. 1.50 Lakh somewhere at Sarahan. As that cash belonged to his office and was for election expenses, he was the only authorized person to get the cash from Nahan Distt. HQ. He told us that somebody has stolen the bag containing the cash and was begging for Rs. 1.20 Lakh from us. When we suggest him to file a FIR, he refused and said that firstly he has to deposit the cash & after that he will file FIR. When we forced him to lodge a complaint at the police station before giving him the cash, he himself confessed that he has found his lost bag. We initially failed to understand his motive behind this and later realized that it was his game plan to get the money from us.

2. Secondly, Rajinder singh is trying his best to destroy my married life to gain financial benefits from our family. On Sep 15, 2014, I went to his home around 12 PM to meet my daughter who was with my wife at his house. Rajinder Singh was at home at that time and he along with his wife started arguing with me and my family and was not allowing me to meet my 6 month old daughter. When I told them that it is my legal right to meet my daughter, he physically assaulted me and then went to the police station with his daughter to file case against me. He said that as his attendance is forgedly marked present at the office, no one can proove that he assaulted me physically at his home.

I can understand that it is a family dispute and you can not take any action against him but still, I want you to inform that Mr Rajinder Singh is a completely fraud person and many cases have been registered against him for his illegal gambling business running at home. His whole family is fully or partially involved in it. Please do not trust him at all.

The reason why they are messing up my married life is that I get frustrated and ask for divorce and so they can get their monthly maintenance money from me for the wife and the child.

I can not write the countless incidents in which Mr Rajinder and his family has tortured me. I can just say that it has been an endless mental pain for me since I married his daughter. 

I belong to a respectable family and myself work as an IT Professional, I too want to live happily with my wife but this man has just messed up everything.

At last I would just say that please keep a check on this man as he may be using the name of your department (HPPWD) for his personal gains.

पबियाणा गांव में जुआ खेलते 12 गिरफ्तार

Story Update : Thursday, July 26, 2012    12:01 AM
पबियाणा गांव में जुआ खेलते 12 गिरफ्तार
राजगढ़ (सिरमौर)। थाना राजगढ़ की सैर जगास पंचायत के पबियाना गांव में पुलिस ने सर्च वारंट के जरिये कार्रवाई कर एक दर्जन के करीब जुआरियों को रंगे हाथ जुआ खेलते दबोचा है। पुलिस की इस कार्रवाई से गांव में हड़कंप मच गया है। पुलिस ने मौके पर जुआरियों से लगभग 14 हजार से अधिक की राशि भी बरामद की है। सभी आरोपियों को गिरफ्तार कर उनके खिलाफ जुआ अधिनियम के तहत मामला दर्ज कर लिया गया है। मामले की पुष्टि थाना प्रभारी धर्मपाल सिंह ने की है। क्षेत्र में जुआ खेलने की इस घटना से लोग हतप्रभ हैं। पुलिस ने योजना बनाकर बुधवार तड़के पबियाना गांव में दबिश दी। तीन बजे के करीब की गई इस कार्रवाई में पुलिस ने रामानंद, सुभाष, राजेंद्र सिंह, अनिल, अरुण कुमार, विनोद कुमार, कमल, सुरेश और विनोद को मौके पर गिरफ्तार करने में सफलता पाई है। पुलिस टीम में थाना प्रभारी सहित एएसआई राजेश पाल और राजेंद्र कुमार भी शामिल थे।

बाक्स टोलियां बनाकर खेल रहे थे जुआ राजगढ़ (सिरमौर)। बुधवार तड़के तीन बजे पुलिस की दबिश के बाद पबियाणा निवासी राजेंद्र के मकान के भीतर जुआ खेल रहे लगभग 12 लोगों को जैसे सांप सूंघ गया था। सभी जुआरी मकान के भीतर टोलियां बनाकर जुआ खेल रहे थे। मौके पर 14 हजार 800 रुपये भी बरामद किए गए हैं। क्षेत्र के कुछ बुद्धिजीवियों ने जुआ खेलने की इस घटना को निंदनीय बताया है। लोगों का कहना था कि कुछ
अर्से से क्षेत्र में इस तरह की घटनाओं को अंजाम दिया जा रहा है। बाक्स सभी को जमानत पर रिहा किया राजगढ़ (सिरमौर)। जुआ खेलते पकड़े गए सभी लोगों को पुलिस ने बाद में जमानत पर रिहा कर दिया है। थाना प्रभारी धर्मपाल शर्मा ने बताया कि हिरासत में लेने के बाद सभी को जमानत दे दी गई है।

7 Positive Habits That Will Help You Make 2015 A Successful Year

Most of us are all dealing with negative issues in our lives. It could be something like a mistake you made years ago, a negative family member or maybe its your health. Well let me tell you your not alone, I am right there with you. I always have negative thoughts and ideas attacking me. They try to keep me from full filling my dreams and achieving success. If you are like me, we all let our doubts, fears and our insecurities get the  best of us. I like call it a “negative storm.”  This “negative storm” can cause someone to feel stuck, lost and full of anxiety. It is the fear of the unknown that builds up in our mind and takes over like a dark cloud. This dark cloud follows us and rains on us, making us negative in our personal and professional lives. As humans, we sometimes focus on the negative and stay under that negative cloud that we created. We must understand that we can walk from under this cloud at anytime, and we have the power to make our days sunny and bright.

I am sharing with you 7 ways that I have found to be the most effective when attempting get through your personal “negative storm” and live a more productive and positive lifestyle along with my Get off Your Attitude Exercise (GOYA-cise) to get you moving.

1.      Think Positive

Thinking Positive is probably the most important of the ways that I can share with you, because you know that everything starts in the mind. Thoughts turn into feelings, which then turn into actions. If you tell yourself you can’t do something, you will ultimately find failure. If you tell yourself you can do it, you have increased your chances of accomplishing that goal. Keep your mind clear and your thoughts positive.  This way will bring great success to you in your personal and professional life.

GOYA-cise: When a negative thought comes into your mind, instantly swap it with a positive one. An example of this would be thinking about a child’s smile or someone you know. This will keep the mind clear of any negative thoughts.

2.      Get Around Positive People

Stay away from negative and pessimistic people. Surround yourself with positive people, and you will be more positive! This is a simple and crucial way in reaching a positive lifestyle. Negative people can rob you of your energy and your drive. We must learn to get around people that are like minded, have goals and the ones that have courage to go forward in life.

GOYA-cise: Think about someone that you respect and has the positive traits that you want to possess. Try to meet with that person frequently so that their positive attitude will become part of you.

3.      Read and Listen to Positive Information

One of the best ways to create a positive mindset is by filling it with positive information. Too many times we get our information from the wrong places. We get focused on the negative news of the world and it bleeds into our subconscious. We need to learn to be careful on what we let into our mind.  To get out of the negative rut, we need to get in the habit of picking up an inspirational book, find a positive article on the web or just listen to a positive inspirational CD.  These positive items will open your mind, encourage, inspire, and teach you how to create a positive mindset. (Some of my favorite inspirational authors are Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy and Les Brown)

GOYA-cise:  Put a Positive CD in your car, home stereo or in at your office. Listen to it for the length of the car ride or 30 minutes in your home or office. Try to implement that one new positive idea that you learned into what you are doing that particular day.

4.      Focus on the Future

Too many of us dwell on our past and let it block our vision of our future. We think about something disturbing that happened to us or we think about something that someone has told us that upset us, and we play it over and over like an old movie reel. We need to break this bad habit and visualize on what we want our future to be. The next time your past is haunting you, instantly think about something in your future. Write down your goals and create a vision board.  This way you can always focus and see the positive things you want in life.

GOYA-cise: Make a list of all things that you want in life. Go online and find it, print a picture of each item. Pin them up on a board in your office or home where you can see them. Look at this vision board daily and visualize yourself possessing all of these items.

5.    Plan Ahead

Using time efficiently helps to maintain a positive attitude.  The best way to do this is to plan your day and your week ahead of time. We need to adopt this habit so that we won’t let procrastination take over and keep us from reaching our goals. The habit of planning and focusing on your priorities and important tasks will help you accomplish more in less time.  This very act will keep your life in check and help you stay on track towards your goals and let you know stay aware of your accomplishments.

GOYA-cise: Each day sit at your desk for ten minutes and map out your next day. This exercise can save two hours the next day.

6.      Be Grateful

Take some time everyday to be grateful and thankful for everything that you have in your life right now. It is easy for us to focus on what we don’t have or things we didn’t accomplish.  Find these great things and recognize them. The very thought of what you are grateful for will help you maintain a positive attitude in your life. This habit is one of the best ways to turn negative thinking into positive thinking instantly.

GOYA-cise: Write down the top 10 things you are grateful for and read them over at least 10 times daily!

7.      Exercise More

Daily exercise will help you improve your mood, along with helping to against stress and depression.  This healthy way of life will keep you living longer and living a healthier lifestyle. Remember exercising will also make you feel better about yourself.  When you feel better about yourself, it breeds confidence which will help you in your personal and professional life.

GOYA-cise: Go for a 30 minute brisk walk on a treadmill or around the neighborhood. This is a great exercise to create positive thinking.

If you follow and implement these 7 life changing ways of life daily, they will bring you the success and happiness you desire. They will take you from underneath that dark cloud of negativity and bring you out into the sunshine of a positive lifestyle. Use the GOYA-cises to improve your productivity and see the positive things like peace and happiness that will come into your life.

“Remember that it is up to you to choose everyday to Get off Your Attitude and to create a positive lifestyle for yourself and others.”   Ryan C. Lowe – Positive Attitude Coach 

The Fight Between My Mind and My Heart

There's a war going on between my heart and my mind. You see, my mind KNOWS what to do, but my heart can't feel it. They can't seem to communicate well with one another. My sleep has been affected by this vicious battle. It's the worst at night. 

My heart begs eagerly to fall into the sweet memories I use to have with him. I was so happy. But my mind is at a constant struggle with my heart , fighting for me not to go down that "dark path." I mean, I give my mind some credit, it's only looking out for my well being. I shouldn't been living in a memory anyway. It's not "healthy" as they say. 

But tonight, as my mind (once again) was fighting with my heart, trying every which way possible to NOT stoop low and give in....I gave in. I felt so ashamed, OH but it felt so good! I watched myself fall onto this warm and cozy cloud. It's hard to describe but it was like I was sitting a memory cloud. I saw myself laying there, my hands behind my head...feet kicked up, smiling up at the sky. I was living in the memory. The memory of fun times. The memory of when I actually felt loved. The memory of being...happy. What a peaceful place to be, wishing I could live here forever. 

Just as I was feeling all good inside, my mind came to the rescue (ugh). It yelled at my heart to come back to reality. "BUT I DON'T WANT TO GO BACK THERE!!!!!"- my heart desperately screamed back.I...don't...wan't....to. 

I felt like a 5 year old throwing a temper tantrum in a mall full of crowded people. After I yelled and screamed and cried, I suddenly was embarrassed. I suddenly felt my memory cloud disinigrate beneath me and felt like an outsider watching myself fall into the cold, mean air filled with anxiety. Falling and falling, I opened my eyes and found myself in the complete darkness of my room. 

My heart won tonight. But tomorrow is another battle. 

Life Is A Gift

Today before you think of saying an unkind word–
think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food–
think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife–
think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion.

Today before you complain about life–
think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you complain about your children–
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep–
think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive–
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job–
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another–
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down–
put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around.

Life is a gift – Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, and Fulfill it.

The Blind Boy

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: “I am blind, please help.” There were only a few coins in his hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.

That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”

The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.” “I wrote: “Today is a beautiful day, but I cannot see it.”

Both signs told people that the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively. When life gives you 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling. And even more beautiful, is knowing that you are the reason behind it!!! Just think… God can live anywhere in the universe, and He chose your heart!