A Letter to My Daughter on Turning FIVE!

Dear Aaradhya,

This year on March 20, 2019, you turned FIVE.  I remember the moment you were born. You were so small. But I knew from the moment I saw your face, I loved you.

I love seeing you grow. Even though, I would love you to be little forever.

Five means you are still a child, but yet you are so independent. You put on your own clothes. You set your own plate. You get your own drink from the fridge.

You are 5 and you are brave, independent, stubborn, strong-willed, loving, selective, warm, bossy, difficult, easy, cuddly, and tough all in one. You can now drive a bycyle independently. You are so sweet. You are like me. :)

This letter isn’t to remember where you have been, it is to speak blessings over you for the future. I love you so deeply I could not express it all in words.

When you walk into a room and talk to someone new, you bring a smile to their face. Your joy in life brings joy to others. And it pours out to every person you interact with on a daily basis.

You are compassionate. If someone is hurt, you want them to feel better. If someone is sad, you want them to feel happy. And if you don’t know what is wrong with someone, you want to find out. I love your heart for people. It is adorable and a beautiful picture of God’s love for people.

You will always be my sweet daughter. No matter what happens in life, I will always love you. Through thick and thin, Good times and bad times, I will always love you. You are my daughter. And there will never be anything which will change this for me. You are good in all activities at your School. You always receives a positive feedback from your teacher.

Lastly, I wanted to tell you that there will be challenges over the next five years. You will find that not everyone is nice like your family. There will be other people who will be mean and try and tell you things which aren’t true. But I will be here for you. I vow to bring truth into your life.

I will not be able to keep you from the sadness in the world, but I will help you learn to deal with it and to know how important goodness can heal many wounds. There will be sadness and difficulty, but you won’t have to face it alone.

So today, I bless you to bring forth growth which will change the world. And I pray God will give you all that you need and build you up to do great things.


On May 29, 2019, (Your Nana, Nani) Mrs. Tara Tomar and Mr. Rajender Singh Tomar of Village Pabiana Again Playing With Me. Trying to separate you from me!

Cheeku, your mother (USHA) has some mental disorder and always try to quarrel with me for no reason. She is living here with me as an agent of her father and mother. She always try and wanted to dominate me infront of all people, her relatives and friends. She always used to say, "Tujhe To Mai Jaanboojh Ke Pareshan Kar Rahi Hu, Shadi To Kisi Aur Se Karungi Fir Usko Pareshan Ni Karungi Agar Wahan Bhi Achha Ni Lagega To Kisi Aur Se... And so on...".

These people have made my life hell. If anything will happen to me, only these three people are responsible. They are blackmailing me to take you away from me...

Listen to the sound track below how their behavior is with me. They are threatening me to file a case again on me and forcefully get your School certificate from your current school at Chandigarh.

I am upset, stressed and troubled/harassed by these people. They people troubling me from my path. The voice of those people each time/everyday stroke in my head like a storm. They are simply messing with me.

Dear Cheeku, I am working in a private company at Chandigarh and surviving well. Due to mental harassment/ and torture by these people, I am very depressed and it affecting my health.

With all the love a father can provide, I love you, my sweet girl.

Yash

A Letter to my Daughter Aaradhya on her 2nd Birthday

The Apple Of My Eyes, My Ever So Adorable Daughter Aaradhya!

I am writing this to you on your 2nd birthday. I can’t believe you are turning 2 today.

These are my wishes for you as you continue to grow up and become your own woman in this magnificent world.

May you always be so proud of your body pointing out your beautiful belly and happy to see your reflection in the mirror.

The time really does fly when you have a little one. You looked so different then and still so much the same in many ways. As I perused through those early photos of you in my phone’s camera roll last night, I saw many of your expressions that I have come to know and love. Especially that serious little gaze you have when you are deep in thought.

I took you back from the hands of your mother's parents (your nana, nani) on April 24, 2015. I can't express my feelings in words when you first time came to Chandigarh with me.

It was truly magical. You started talking right around 18 months and you haven’t stopped since. Your language has seriously just exploded and you are constantly coming up with something new and you are so good at putting together pieces about the world around you.

At bed time you made me sing “Nanha Munna Rahi Hun, Om Jai Jagdish, Shiv Kailasho Re...” to you at least ten times and after each rendition you tell “Just one more time Papa. This is the last time.”

Currently your favorite songs are “Sabse Pyara Kon Hai..., Choti Si Nahi si Pyari Si... And some Rhymes Eyo o o, eyo o o, O o o o o, Baba Black Sheep and Johny Johny Yes Papa". You request to listen to these songs multiple times on a daily basis and usually we oblige, because it makes you so blissfully happy. You sang your birthday song , "Happa happa to you...".

This year you showed us your love for animals. You pretty much want to cuddle any furry creature you come in contact with. It makes me happy how much you love animals and sometimes I wonder if you’ll always have such a love for them. You completely adore them and carry them around everywhere. You pretty much always have at least one doll or stuffed animal tagging along with you at a given moment. Oh no...!! when you saw a real Camel first time at Sukhna Lake Chanidgarh, you start crying with fear!

You have made some good friends here, you play with them and enjoy your life with them. Meeshu bua :) was your favorite friend included Nanha, Jiya, Simmi and Saloni.

This year we have also learned that you are tenacious and determined. You always know exactly what you want and you have no problem letting your desires be known. Many times you will wake up and the first thing out of your mouth is your breakfast order. No Good Morning Mama/Papa. Just “I wanna eat milk.” It always makes me laugh.

You are also real into reading people’s emotions. Just the other day we saw a little pug while we were out and you said, “Papa, doggy royi royi kar rahi hai..". Be happy doggy!” You don’t like anyone to be sad. I actually think it makes you uneasy when one of us is unhappy. The other day I was pretending to be sad when you would not share something with me and you got pretty upset about it.

You have a silly, little spirit that we just love and a little laugh I adore. You have a raspy, throaty little chuckle that matches your little voice. I thought you would grow out of it by now, but it’s still around and it’s my favorite. I hope it lasts forever.

I could go on and on about all the things I have learned to love about you this year, but I’ll end by just saying that I am so thankful and blessed to be your papa. I can’t wait to enjoy this next year of adventures with you my sweet CHEEKU!

I hope I can always help guide you in the right direction. I hope I allow you enough freedom to make your own decisions. In the meantime, I have loved every single second of watching you learn and explore and grow. You are turning from a baby to a child far too quickly, I hate it.

Here is something about your mother, your mother has some psycho problem. Every time she used to make some non-sense issues for nothing and create problems. She always wants to show me inferior in front of her parents and society.

She never speaks mannerly enough to me. She always talked rudely. When ever I tried to make her understand the things she get angry and make issues. That is really her ego! She always used to talk useless things to her mother over the phone. Every time when I tried to call her, her mobile found busy answering "the person you are calling is busy to talk to another person". For long time she did not picked up my calls.

She always used false statement to show me inferior. Over the phone call to her mother she always produce a feeling of alarm.

Whenever we go to market, she swipes several things from the shop, which is very shameful to her. I always tried to make her understand and asks to return the stolen goods to the shop. Even I complaint this to her mother, but she (her mother) also used the same thing. I have some recorded voice of her mother, which you can find here. They always tried to separate you from me. How can a mother tell her married daughter, "Just do time pass with your husband".

I would love to keep you exactly how you are at this moment forever, but I know I can’t. What I can do is cherish every single second of right now. Savor your high pitched giggles and tickle your quickly disappearing baby thighs.

I have no doubts that you will conquer every obstacle in your future. You are wonderful. You are amazing. You are worthy. You are gorgeous. You are you.

I love you. Happy birthday. We celebrate your beautiful little soul today, and every day. Keep shining your light.

Love you my Apricot! :) Cheeku :)

A Letter To My Daughter Aaradhya on Her 1st Birthday And Its Lessons For Life!

To The Apple Of My Eyes, My Ever So Adorable Daughter Aaradhya!

I am writing this to you on your first birthday, but you won’t read it for many years yet. Where and when you will be reading this I don’t know. I have so many thoughts running around my mind and I thought I would write them all down so that one day, you can read and hopefully treasure them, the way I treasure you.

Today is March 20, 2015. Today is your first birthday. Today, you turned O-N-E. Three hundred and sixty five days ago, I stood with your mother as we welcomed you into this world. It was a time of unbelievable relation. Holding you in my arms for the first time there was this profound moment that the world had been disrupted by your presence, and that it was now my grand responsibility to help you become the woman you were meant to be.

Aaradhya, I always prayed for a daughter, and as an answer to my prayers God gifted us with you. You are a gift from God and this day only reminds us even more how grateful we all are to have you in our family. I will never forget where I was a year ago when I heard the wonderful news of your arrival. I am so happy to be sharing this day with you. Words cannot explain my emotions when the nurse at Navjeevan Nursing Home came over to me and said, “here’s your daughter”. And there was you my darling, Aaroo, clad in white, my tiny little angel!!! Darling, I have always shown to the world my rough and tough side, but I am more emotional than your mother, and if it comes to a “tear shedding competition” I would win it hands down. It is truly edged in my memory, that unforgettable moment, when my tears of joy almost got my shirt wet.

My daughter, it has been more than a 7 months today, since I last saw you when I came home during vacations (on September 15, 2014). You were staying at your Mother's parents home. You are still there at their home.

I know, we are far apart, but you will always be in my heart. I am thinking of you on this special day. I can not describe my love to you. “I miss you Aaroo. You definitely have learned to talk, learned to walk, I miss you calling me ‘Papa’, I miss you holding my hands to walk with." I really wanted to meet you on this special day but circumstances are not in our favor :(  this time. Soon, I will get you back!

My lovely daughter, today I wanted to share with you my hopes and wishes for your life, and to perhaps pass on a little wisdom, should my thoughts be deemed as wise.

I will give you my wise words. You will listen to some, and reject most. If nothing else, take note of where I have failed.

• I will wish for you a life free from pain. But there will be pain. You will have your heart broken, your best friend will betray you. Stay strong. Through pain we learn and return to  joy.
• I will dislike the man (or woman) you bring home. Forgive my selfishness. Should they prove worthy of you, I will love them too, eventually.
• I will tell everyone about you. You’ll be embarrassed. But some day, you’ll know why I’m so proud.
• I will give you everything that I am. I gave you life, that was a good start. But wherever I can help you be happier, it will be done.
• I will strive to make you better than me. It will secretly hurt when you surpass me, but whatever you need to do it, will be yours.
• I will dance at your Wedding. I will embarrass you.
• I will thank God for your mother. She gave you birth. I love her a lot! She is beautiful, intelligent and ofcourse sanskari, but a lier :( she hasn't a beautiful heart).
• I will cry over you. At your successes and failures. In your youth and middle-age. At our mutual joys and fears. I will cry because you are a part of me. Because you give me purpose.
• I will hold you, support you, guide you, teach you, protect you and love you with all my heart and soul!
• I can promise one thing further, "you will always be my baby".

I am your parents since the day you were born and until I draw my last breath. I hope that I stay healthy and see you live the most wonderful life. I can think of nothing more devastating than being denied the chance to see you grow into the wonderful human being that I know you will be. I hope you are blessed not only with a beautiful face, but with a beautiful heart too. I will do my utmost to teach you about being a beautiful person. To teach you that manners and courtesy will carry you far further in this life than a pretty face and a good pair of pins.

I can’t tell you in words how much I miss you my daughter Aaroo!
I love you my sweet Princes! May you have a wonderful first birthday, and a blessed future.

Your father has showered all his blessings to you!

Love you my Apricot! :) Cheeku :)